Your Body Is Fabulous- Vanessa
The YBIF series was started as a result of a book I started writing many years ago, “Your Body Is Fabulous: Dress Like It,” because I feel style and fashion is nothing if you don’t love the body you’re dressing. So, every Thursday I feature a lovely lady, bloggers as well as other gorgeous ladies I know or meet, who tell us what makes their bodies fabulous! The purpose is to empower women to to accept and love their bodies’ as they are by showing women with various body types, skin colors, hair textures, and more. This week the super sweet Vanessa of Nessbow stops by from way down under (Australia)!!
What makes your body fabulous?
The fact that I have such a huge amount of energy crammed into such a tiny package! My body is capable of so many amazing things, it’s really flexible and deceptively strong. My body has been put through some tough times in the past, but it’s always managed to keep going.
What is your favorite thing about how you look? And why?
I find it hard to choose just one thing that I like best about the way I look. It really depends on my mood. I have gorgeous hair, which I can style in so many ways. My eyes are beautiful, and the brightest shade of blue. They’re really expressive and I like emphasizing them with different-coloured eyeshadow. I also have a very nice backside! Even though the rest of me is quite small, it’s rather shapely and feminine, which I like. I’m kind of guitar-shaped, I guess!
What are your favorite things to wear to flatter your body or just help you feel good?
I’m a sucker for a bright colour or a gorgeous print. If I need a pick-me-up, I’ll just slip into something vibrant. I think that cinched waistlines look lovely on me, because they create a flattering silhouette. I also love a well-fitting pair of jeans to highlight my butt. Gorgeous shoes are another feel-good staple of mine. If I need to feel confident or sexy, I’ll make sure I have a pair of amazing shoes on my feet.
When it comes to finding clothes, what are some issues you come across? And how do you solve them?
I think the most difficult thing for me is finding pants that are the right length. I’m only 5’2, so most ladies’ pants are far too long for me. I get around this by shopping in the childrens or teens department (!). I also like to shop second-hand, because sizes have changed dramatically over the past few decades, and women tended to be shorter fifty years ago. I’ve started to embrace dresses and skirts, because it’s easier to find things that are the right length. Sometimes, if I buy a really incredible pair of pants, I’ll get them tailored so they fit perfectly.
I think the media plays a huge role in the way that people feel about how they look. It’s so easy to compare yourself to celebrities and people in advertisements who have impossibly perfect bodies. If you do that though, you’ll always come up short. When there is a very homogenous image of beauty being slapped all over advertisements, television, films and magazines, it’s difficult for people who don’t fit this mould to feel beautiful. However, with the rise of personal blogging, I think that women and girls have a host of incredible role-models to look up to in the blogosphere. There are so many incredible women of all shapes and sizes, with such varied approaches to personal style to look up to and be inspired by in the blogging world. I think this is a truly beautiful thing.
What are your thoughts on female body acceptance and appreciation?
I think that women go through a kind of tug-of-war when it comes to loving and accepting their bodies. On the one hand, we’re told to be proud of ourselves and embrace our uniqueness. However, there is a real culture of shutting down women who are proud of their bodies, by dismissing them as arrogant, or stuck-up or self-involved. It seems to be more acceptable to hate your body than to love it. This is so sad. Women need to work to remove the stigma surrounding body love. The best ways to do this are to stop nit-picking the way you look, to start making positive statements about the way other people look, and to get out of the body-hate mindset.
It’s also clear that body love doesn’t come easily. I’m 26, and I still don’t feel that I truly love and appreciate my body. I still feel self-conscious about some areas of my body, and will sometimes think negatively about the way I look. But I think back ten years or so, to when I was a teenager struggling with anorexia, and I realise how far I’ve come. I’ve gotten to a point where I no longer feel the need to punish myself for not living up to a narrow ideal of ‘perfection’. I’m able to list several things I adore about my body, and at the very least accept the things that aren’t so fab. Body acceptance and appreciation is a difficult thing to attain, so you should grab onto any little speck of love you can find for your body, and then attempt to grow it.
Isn’t Vanessa adorable? I’d never heard of a guitar shaped body, so that made me giggle a bit, lol. We all have to start somewhere (that’s with anything in life), so I love what she said about starting with one thing you love about your body and growing from there!!
Now it’s your turn! Send in your answers and pictures telling me what makes your body fabulous so that I can feature you and further share the body acceptance/love message! Feel free to share one thing that makes your body fabulous in the comments .