The YBIF series was started as a result of a book I started writing many years ago, “Your Body Is Fabulous: Dress Like It,” because I feel style and fashion is nothing if you don’t love the body you’re dressing. So, every Thursday I feature a lovely lady, bloggers as well as other gorgeous ladies I know or meet, who tell us what makes their bodies fabulous! The purpose is to empower women to to accept and love their bodies’ as they are by showing women with various body types, skin colors, hair textures, and more. Today, the talented NMercer stops by to share with us!
It’s strong. I was in gymnastics and a lot of sports growing up and I think that helped shape my body as it developed.
What is your favorite thing about how you look? And why?
My butt and my boobs. because they never let me down – whether I’m heavy or thin, they look good and make me feel sexy.
What are your favorite things to wear to flatter your body or just help you feel good?
Those tight 80’s stretch pants with the bright patterns that have been in style have been so fun to wear! I also love rockin a pair of good booty shorts with heel.
When it comes to finding clothes, what are some issues you come across? And how do you solve them?
I had a six pack once, like 7+ years ago. Otherwise, my midsection is not midriff worthy and this year there have been the cutest little bras and half-shirts in style as well as those dresses with big pieces cut out around the belly or back. It’s kind of a bummer but it’s not the end of the world. I focus on showing off the best parts of my body and I’m grateful that I have a good body awareness so I know what to not draw attention to.
What role do you think the media plays in body acceptance?
A huge role!! Mostly in it’s form of non-acceptance. Talking about who’s gained weight or showing unflattering pictures on purpose. It even works on me – I’ll find myself drawn in to TMZ when they’re showing how much weight someone has gained or lost. If you used the local news in Los Angeles to gauge what the average female is like you’d think ‘normal’ is very skinny with any imperfections corrected by plastic surgery. A regular sized body would not be acceptable. Or at least it would certainly look out of place standing next to LA news teams. TV shows are still pretty bad too. They’re getting better though.
What are your thoughts on female body acceptance and appreciation?
I think most of the time we accept what we regularly see is ‘acceptable’ by our society. A key factor to anything becoming acceptable or appreciated is repetition. If we are seeing on TV and in the magazines everyday that what is regular, accepted and appreciated is an underweight woman, that is what starts to seem like the norm (or what is regular, accepted and appreciated) in our minds.
We just need to all keep pushing to have the norm in the media match reality a bit more closely. Because there are lots of other sizes and shapes of a woman besides “waif” that can be acceptable, appreciated and downright sexy in the world I know.
I love that NMercer acknowledges that positive body awareness also means knowing what works for your body type (I’ve wanted to try those bra tops too, lol) and her point that we need to keep pushing for media to match reality! I hope this series is helping with that in some way :-).