Ok, I know it has been WAY too long since there has been a YBIF feature, but a break was needed, life gets busy, and I wanted the timing to be right So, the Your body is fabulous series is officially back and in full effect for 2014, and I’m excited about it; I hope you are too! The YBIF series was started as a result of a book I started writing many years ago, “Your Body Is Fabulous: Dress Like It,” because I feel style and fashion is nothing if you don’t love the body you’re dressing. So, every Thursday I feature a lovely lady, bloggers as well as other gorgeous ladies I know or meet, who tell us what makes their bodies fabulous! The purpose is to empower women to to accept and love their bodies’ as they are by showing women with various body types, skin colors, hair textures, and more. Today the lovely Joi of, In My Joi, stops by to tell us what makes her body fabulous!
My body is fabulous, neither because it is perfect, nor because it is labeled by a certain number on the scale or sizing system. It is fabulous because it is uniquely mine, and it was gifted specially for me. It is fabulous because it is brown, it is curvy, and it has value.
What is your favorite thing about how you look? And why?
My favorite thing about how I look is my skin. It’s the first thing a person sees when they look at me, a pretty hue of brown. I love brown skin.
What are your favorite things to wear to flatter your body or just help you feel good?
My favorite things to wear are vintage styles, bright colors (instant mood booster), dresses, and as of late, jeans!
When it comes to finding clothes, what are some issues you come across? And how do you solve them?
I am considered to be pear-shaped, meaning that my waist and upper body is considerably smaller than my lower body. Oftentimes it is difficult to find pants that fit properly. If it fits my derriere, then 9 times out of 10, the waist is too large. For excellent fitting pants I stick with tried and trusted brands (like NYDJs). I never have a problem with a waist gap, and they are very comfortable.
What role do you think the media plays in body acceptance?
I believe that the media is one of the biggest triggers for body image issues. The media has the power and influence to dictate the definition of beauty to the masses. Instead of using their influence to promote body positivity, they choose to portray an extremely narrow margin for what is beautiful. As a result, young girls and women feel extremely dissatisfied with their appearance. Perhaps their skin isn’t light enough or acne and blemish free, their body isn’t small enough, or they don’t look like a runway model and fitness trainer in one. Unfortunately, they don’t consider the lengths that those in the spotlight have to go through to look “perfect” and fit within that narrow preset margin. They don’t consider that the celebrity they idolize has a professional team in place that makes sure that they look The Part 24 hours a day, from the top of their head to the bottom of their feet. I believe that the media should stop portraying celebrities and others in a way that gives the impression that their appearance is effortless, flawless, and happenstance.
What are your thoughts on female body acceptance and appreciation?
I have long believed that too much time and energy is spent hating the gift that is our body. I began practicing what I like to think of as ‘body love’ over a decade ago. Despite stretch marks, bruises, cellulite, spider veins, and jiggles, I realized that this is the only body that I have. Therein began the journey of loving my body. Like any journey, there have been ups and downs. I am happy to say that now I see a new movement taking place, where woman and even young girls are starting to realize that they will not be happy “when” their body is a certain way, but rather they will choose to be happy “now”. They are taking ownership of their appearance, and setting new definitions for what is beautiful, casting aside previous standards. I am a part of that movement. I appreciate my body for what it is, a shell, or a vessel for the individual that resides within. Genuine beauty comes from that source, and radiates outwardly.
Ah, Joi is such a light of sunshine! She made so many valid points about misperceptions in media and loving your body just because it’s yours. On another note, I’ve never heard of the brand, NYDJ, but I’m going to have to try them out, since she says there is no gap in the jeans!
P.S. I have a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! I am having my first workshop, “Your Body Is Fabulous: Dress Like It!” in a few weeks, and if you live in Houston, I’d love to see your face in the place :-). Seating is limited, so sign up, here.