The YBIF series was started as a result of a book I started writing many years ago, “Your Body Is Fabulous: Dress Like It,” because I feel style and fashion is nothing if you don’t love the body you’re dressing. So, every Thursday I feature a lovely lady, bloggers as well as other gorgeous ladies I know or meet, who tell us what makes their bodies fabulous! The purpose is to empower women to to accept and love their bodies’ as they are by showing women with various body types, skin colors, hair textures, and more. Today the awesome Teacake shares with us!!
What makes your body fabulous?
It’s MINE. Every curve, dimple, cellulite, and stretch mark are all a part of my make up. It took me some time to accept that but I realized if I could look in the mirror and gawk at the parts I love most, I could embrace the parts I love least.
What is your favorite thing about how you look? And why?
My favorite thing about how I look is that I APPEAR to be proportionate! I may not be perfect in terms of numbers and measurements, but I have developed a knack for tricking the eye by choosing carefully what I wear. No one would ever know, unless I told them, that I don’t really have hips. I have plenty of backside but not-so-curvy hips. (Oops! I guess I just let the cat out of the bag!) I make sure I wear clothing and pose a certain way in photos to give the illusion that I have hips.
What are your favorite things to wear to flatter your body or just help you feel good?
Although I feel great in spandex dresses that hug my body and all its glory, my favorite things to wear are maxi dresses. Long and flowy gowns/dresses leave things to the imagination while still accentuating the positives like my bust line and “onion” if you will.
When it comes to finding clothes, what are some issues you come across? And how do you solve them?
My issue is with finding jeans! Jeans are what I like to call my “Hell-Wear!” When shopping for jeans the issues I come across are that they are too tight in the thigh and buttocks area, yet too large in the waist. I would purchase a larger size and wear a belt so tight that the jean would bundle up! (Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about). Recently, I have solved this issue by biting the bullet and buying more expensive brands. I found myself spending no less that $90 for one pair! Needless to say, I don’t wear jeans very often.
What role do you think the media plays in body acceptance?
The media! The media? The media. Well, I’ll put it like this. I sometimes feel like going crash diets…because of the media! I sometimes want a slimmer face…because of the media! I sometimes want laser surgery to rid myself of the “stretch mark life”…because of the media! But there is ONE positive sentiment. I thank my lucky stars that I have an ALL NATURAL BOOTY…BECAUSE OF THE MEDIA! It is definitely time out for the glorified size 2. Now, this is coming from someone who wore a size double zero most of her life so don’t get your boy shorts in a wad. I believe that the media, at this time, is still on the fence about body acceptance. For example, they seem to accept the CURVACEOUS woman as long as she is CONFIDENT. But as soon as that same woman loses 20 to 50 pounds or more, “She’s STUNNING!” Well, wasn’t she stunning prior to the weight loss? As they say via text, “ijs” (I’m just saying).
What are your thoughts on female body acceptance and appreciation?
As a 29 year old woman, I have battled with my own body acceptance over the years. I had to realize that I am not that thin GIRL that I used to be. I am a curvy WOMAN now. When I started getting down in the dumps about my body, it didn’t take me too long to understand that is wasn’t my clothes being mean to me or the scale lying to me…it was all ME abusing it. While I am a firm believer in embracing YOU and the cloth that you are made of, I am also a believer in taking care of YOU. I lived in the fast food lines, I stayed active in singing, acting, and dancing but I never worked out. That was all abuse. But, when the fast food stopped and the water, juicing, healthy eating, and exercise began, I started to see and feel a difference in my body. The positive changes made me feel better about myself and appreciate the skin that I am in. I wouldn’t dare paint the picture that this was easy for me, it wasn’t, and some days it’s not. But once you have peace within, you will start to make peace with your body. I will never be a size 2 again, but I ACCEPT by body, I won’t ABUSE it anymore, and I APPRECIATE what I have. YOU should too.
Like Teacake, I love my dimples, cellulite, and natural booty too!! She’s just lovely, real, and can sing too!